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First Timer... novice... I feel like a loser
Posted Fri, 05/14/2010 - 00:00 by mgodoy75
35 y.o. family guy with two young daughters who are my life. My wife is now the bread winner for us, and I feel lousy.
Tomorrow will be my first month from getting canned... for not being phony, for not being a company man... money isn't everything but I did not think it would be this difficult to land something. All say I am overqualified, over paid, yet I am seeking entry level, I would be grateful to earn 40K vs. 95K. I need the opportunity, I need to retain my faith and hope, yet despair looms near.
I should return to school, I feel worthless...
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Welcome
I hate to break it to you, but one month is nothing. Wait until it extends for six months or a year.
If you have skills and experience, I would recommend striking out on your own if the job search doesn't pan out for you in the next month or two.
Whatever you do, don't feel like a loser. It doesn't serve any purpose and it's sort of a self-fulfilling prophesy. I went through three years of it, and I was working for most of that period in a job that made me despondent. The point: Merely having a job doesn't make you a winner and doesn't make you feel like a winner.
As soon as I said, "Enough of this. I'm no loser," I stopped being one.
When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.
Don't feel bad, keep your unemployment
I would not accept a job unless it pays at least what you are getting from unemployment and is a permanent job. Don’t let people make you feel bad about drawing unemployment because that will only make you more likely to accept anything as I did and then if you lose the job or if it is just a temporary job paying less than you were drawing from unemployment your benefits will be reduced or cut off. I felt as if I should try to take any job so that I could get off of unemployment and that cost me! I have never drawn unemployment and have worked since I was 15 years old now I’m 52!
Don't Be Your Worst Enemy - You Deserve Better!
Loss of a job can impact us in many and different ways; however, it's important to recognize that there is a "grieving" process associated with job loss. Some people go through more stages than others; remember, you're going through a BIG life change. Change,however, does NOT make you a loser. Jobs give us a sense of purpose and help feed our self-esteem; conversely, job loss instills fear and makes us question our value/worth. During this time, it's critical to surround yourself with positive reading and a supportive cast! It will make THE difference in your job search and your overall outlook on life. Do NOT become your own worst enemy ... you deserve much better! Pick up some good books to help you stay positive and focused (E.g., "Fearless" by Steve Chandler, "The Power of the Platform" are both inspiring reads for a first step). Stay positive and starting connecting with/building a supportive cast. You already have two young girls who no doubt know that you are anything BUT a loser!
Right on!
Couldn't have said it better myself.
When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.