Dad in final moments of life, just found out this a.m., have to reschedule interview
Hi all,
Unemployment sucks and what sucks even more is I just found out this morning my Dad is in the final moments of his life. I happened to call my Mom and my neice told me this. He quit taking in any fluids or food Sunday night and his body temp is dropping and it's only a matter of a few days or less. And his birthday is tomorrow. Nothing like being kept in the loop by my estranged siblings, hah?
Great to find this out just this morning when I had an interview scheduled for 1:30 today. Needless to say, if they won't reschedule me I don't want to work there. Right now my focus has to be on getting a grip and making arrangements to board my pets and fly out of state for his funeral.
Anyway, this is my story at this point in time. Happy to have found this site.
I guess your father has passed by now. My condolences...
Death is the only sure thing.
Yep I was just rambling on again about this road that I have to walk one more time,This lonely empty road that we all have to face,That we all have to find away to deal with.It sure does not get any easier at all.
Well that day has come and past as a dark Vail softly falling across shadows of once was happier times.We sat quietly watching for body language,a look in his eyes,a unspoken word.But none was to be had at the moment of truth,There stood a man who would change three generations lives with just one sentence.I looked to my sister for strength and she to me,I saw that uncertain stare of my bother not really wanting the words to be said but needing them just the same.
As the Doctor listened to the sounds of my Fathers heart and lungs his eyes looking deep into the faces of us three,I could just feel the answers would not be found here in this hospital room,but in our hearts.
We hung on every sound as he spoke with words that had underlining meanings,Frank he said Go home live your life,enjoy your time,take walks,watch your great grand children play,there will be no more treatments.I don't have the answers that you are seeking,there is no time frame, for I'm not God.No miracle's in medicine just hope and faith,and that's all I can give you and your family now.
I felt as any moment I would fall to my knees,I knew of the illness,I understood the words,but it had not forced its way into the pit of my soul until that moment,in that room,on that day.I knew it was real.
How fast the hours rush by,how you see people going about there everyday chores,never stopping to think is this my last,Will I see him,her,them coming in this very morning?Did I make a difference just being here,
Well my Father most certainly made a difference,he raised two children that were handed to him when he married our Mother,He taught us to walk as tall as we could,to believe that life is a journey not a destiny and that every person we meet along the way will make a difference in our life's and we will return it to each and every one of them.To never use people on the way up,for we will see those same faces on the way down,but to drink every moment,forgive those who may not hear,forgive those who may not see and understand you cant always change everything.
The lessons we learn while we grow up stay with us for a life time.You see he made a big difference.This man was and always will be our Dad.
Thanks all for sentiments and sharing your experiences. It's over and the funeral was on Wed and he had the full military send-off and police procession, etc. In the process, Mom has gotten sick and might have had a mini-stroke, but that is controllable enough.
Now I am back "home" and my reality shifts back to a job. But FIRST, I must go pick up my two darling Shih Tzus at Petsmart.
I am sorry to hear about your situation and hope you are hanging in there.
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