Hello my fellow unemployed

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calisally
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I moved to California from Alaska about 5 months ago. I've been in my profession for 12+ years (am only 35) and have built an excellent work history, etc. I had no idea how bad it was in California and came here for the sun, lifestyle, etc. I did my research and had good leads.

I have been unemployed now for the longest period in my adult life (five months). In AK and other states, I was turning down two jobs for every one I accepted. I last worked for the state government and was promoted twice in less than a year. I have numerous, significant "accomplishments", certifications, letters of recommendation, etc. Thought all this meant something, but I realize it doesn't, so please know I'm not boasting.

I keep an excel worksheet detailing every job I apply for and what occurs after. I have applied for more than 100 jobs (everything from my current occupation to bartending, housekeeping, customer service- all things I also have experience in)- and nothing. I occasionally get a letter in the mail from someone letting me know they chose not to interview me (phew- glad to have that closure and courtesy from a few). These are jobs I am utterly qualified for and pay considerably less than I am used to making. (disgusting how the local employers have capitalized on the desperation of unemployed workers by paying less than what the job is worth- and- really- less than a living wage).

This is utterly depressing. I feel like crap and wish I could run away. I finally reached rage today. It brings relief to read from others experiencing similar circumstances.

I do not lack work because I lack drive, education, experience, enthusiasm, energy, effort, positive thinking, follow-through, etc, etc. I don't know why.

Thank you for this forum and opportunity to be with others who understand.

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Oh, we understand, alright

Welcome, CaliSally, and thanks for sharing your story. Many are in your boat. I have been there myself and may get there again. I'm glad to hear you're reaching the stage of rage. That is powerful stuff. Just make sure you direct it properly or it can blow up on you.

For what it's worth, this part jumped out for me:

Thought all this meant something, but I realize it doesn't...

This is a very liberating realization if you look at it from a certain perspective. It means nothing. It all means nothing in the grand scheme of things (Ha! As if there could ever be such a thing as the "grand scheme of things!" Preposterous. But I digress...) Play it like that and see what happens.

Does that make any sense?

Oh, and switch it up a bit. See what you can do with those spreadsheets and tallies you've been keeping. You could use them for blog fodder or use them to show off your highly organized nature, highlight your spreadsheet skills, apply the same skills to some other pursuit, etc. and so on.

You'll figure it out and everything will come up roses for you. Just remember that every rose has its thorn.

Now I'm gonna go listen to some Poison. Have a great day/night/week/life/whatever!

When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.

calisally
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Completed my goals for the day...

Walked the dog and soaked up sunshine at the same time. Cleaned the house. Got out of my pajamas by noon (yes, walked the dog in pj's), checked all the job sites (applied for one I couldn't really afford to take....but might boost my confidence if they called me and I could turn them down), talked to a lawyer, did yoga and then more rage-fueled exercise, ate a healthy lunch and planned a healthy (and cheap) dinner in my head, beat the sh*t out of some nice folks in on-line scrabble (another rage-fueled activity), resisited having an afternoon beer (it's almost five....). Explained why (in painfully slow texting) I can't attend my neighbor's pay-party (you know, partylite, frugal gourmet, tupperware, mary kay, etc.) Visited the same job sites again thinking a new job may have been added since 10 minutes ago... Oh, I did manage to squeeze in watching 2012- which was anxiety inducing and somehow comforting at the same time...

Now I have nothing to do and am trying to resist putting my jammies back on and heading for the couch and remote. One of my goals is to NOT be in my pajamas and laying on the couch when my hubby gets home from work!

Ugh. Right now listing all the things I have to be thankful for (which helps). Be strong my fellow underutilized :0)

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One step at a time

Hi Sally,

I like your idea of setting small goals every day. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed that I let a whole day slip by without realizing it. One step at a time.

Something will pan out for you. In the meantime, soak up as much sun as you can.

Best,
Jen

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