Rewards for Participation
Hey, you should join this site. Active users are rewarded with points, badges and privileges. You'll see more and be able to do more the second you log in. Of course it's free.
Hey, you should join this site. Active users are rewarded with points, badges and privileges. You'll see more and be able to do more the second you log in. Of course it's free.
This is real market research -- it won't make you rich, but it will make you some cash and won't cost you anything but a little time.
Anyone who has ever been jobless for a period of time can relate to the hopelessness. It's been going on for so long that it does seem like it will never end. I used to feel like I wouldn't be able to work again even if I did manage to get a job, as if I had grown incapable of getting up in the morning, showering, shaving, pressing my work clothes and arriving at the office on time, cheerful and ready to rock. That life seems like it existed in another universe, like you jumped to another dimension where everything is just weird and sucky.
It's not as bad as all that. Life changes. I guarantee you that ten years from right now, your life will be different. It might even be drastically different. The only constant is change. We don't notice it because we're watching it roll by like a river, but that river contains different water in every moment. Over the long haul, the river itself will change course. It will eventually dry up completely.
The point, of course, is that your current situation is not permanent. It is very important to keep this in mind. It was critical for me.
You see, once you realize that things will change, it becomes easier to focus and effect that change. You can build a raft, move to a different spot, even dam the river if you're really ambitious. You don't need to sit passively by, but even if you do that, things will change. This is not the end of the line. It's not permanent.
So far I've committed a big writing sin: The content of this little article does not deliver on the promise of its title. What have I said related to death sentences or prison or whatever?
Well, come on, you can figure this one out. A death sentence or a life sentence is a pretty permanent sucky situation like you might imagine your unemployment to be. As I have just tried to remind you, unemployment is not permanent.
You know you're getting out of "jail" at some point. Why not make a break for it right now?
Comments
probation
I can relate very well to your first paragraph. I had been unemployed for 11 months. I was spending the day looking for work, and several hours a night online looking for job leads. I was extremely depressed, and really had to push myself to get up in the mornings. It reached a point that I barely got my kids up on time to catch the bus for school. Yes I really kicked my own ass for that one. A lot.
I landed a P/T job (usually 20-38 hrs) in a dollar store during the christmas season. I was the happiest minimum wage employee you've ever seen. I was working again! I was thrilled to have a job, my depression vanished. I found out, yes, I could still function in a work environment. I got my first paycheck as I clocked out to go home one night. I got in my car and opened my check. And cried all the way home. For two weeks pay I'd made about 350 less than a weeks pay at my old job. I was still grateful to have the job. It allowed me to feel productive and see posibility in the future. So, personally, I think we can still function in the "daily grind" . When the time comes, we'll be so damn excited to have a job we will go to it with an ambition and determination, for we know what it is to be on the other side.
I know exactly what you mean
I had a very similar experience once of taking a low-paying, not-particularly-interesting job and loving it. When the job ended, it was a total bummer.
I will say that once the excitement of having a job wears off, a low-paying, non-interesting job kills you. I had such a job for about a year, and it nearly caused me to hurl myself from a bridge. Only two thoughts kept me from doing it: "If I do this, it will cause tremendous pain to those who love me," and "This too shall pass." Losing that job gave me one of the happiest days of my life. I was literally walking on air, though a bit scared. It was like walking out of prison (not that I have any direct experience with that, just sticking with the imagery of the post).
Businesses that aren't hiring the unemployed are absolutely stupid. Nobody will work harder or be more dependable and honest than somebody who has been out of work for a while.
When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.
Hi Becky, I can definitely
Hi Becky,
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. Occasionally, I start feeling like I have forgotten how to work. My previous career was a Flight Attendant. Prior to that, I have always done Human Resources, Customer Service and Administrative type work. I am use to the fast pace environment. I have an exceptional work ethic and have always worked hard and took pride in what I was doing, but now I sometimes wonder will I get those characteristics back.
I know I will. I am just doubting myself. I know once I receive a job, I am really going to feel good just getting back into the work mode. I am willing to take just about any position. Thank goodness I have my school. It has been good for me. Without school I definitely would have gone bonkers. I am getting my Master's in Teaching. I will be graduating in November. I still have other criteria to meet before becoming certified. It is a process, which I am doing one step at a time. Anyhow, I am holding onl and trying to be positive.
Demi
Chuck I can Relate
I'm at that point where I'm thinking of "casting a bigger net" and try to find a much lower paying job. I'd like to think it will bring me back to the motivation level I had when I was working in my last job 7 months ago (which I hated). For some reason hitting this bad economy at age 55 has brought all kinds of bull shit out in me from some place deep and dark. I've found some relief reading echart tolle. But, I have suicidal thouhts often, but nothing specific, recurring, planned or anything. I agree the pain of your loved ones is probably the biggest deterent. Let's finish the dance the old fashioned way and, as churchhill said, "just bugger on" life will change. Accept what life has dealt your life situation and that is a relief because it will change. If there is something you can do about it, do it.
Reaching out to similar minded souls is a great service you have provided... thanks Chuck
Maybe is not a death sentence
Maybe is not a death sentence to be unemployed but after a few months will only the disadvantages of being unemployed. I was in this situation last year but PEO company helped me to find a job in no time. Don't lose your actual job because it will be hard for you to find a new one fast.
Well,
I was out of a "job" for over two years, and I'm still alive and kickin' harder than ever. It's definitely not a death sentence.
I'm glad you found a job in no time.
When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.
Any tips?
Hey Chuck:
You have any tips to pass our way as far as how you survived being unemployed for 2 years?
And by this I mean, folks need to have a "safe" place to stay, food to eat and hopefully pay some bills (lol).
Did you borrow from family?
Have unemployment coming in?
You are a "survivor" and we need to know how to also survive.
Thanks,
Angela
My Website: A Job For You
You summed it up perfectly!
"I used to feel like I wouldn't be able to work again even if I did manage to get a job, as if I had grown incapable of getting up in the morning, showering, shaving, pressing my work clothes and arriving at the office on time, cheerful and ready to rock. That life seems like it existed in another universe, like you jumped to another dimension where everything is just weird and sucky."
That made me LOL! You so perfectly sum up how I feel sometimes. Went to one of those day long series of interviews last week - and with everyone running around and talking about what they'd been working on for the last year - part of me was just like - isn't it amazing?All this time they've still been getting up getting dressed every morning and coming in to work? Was a bit like being an alien imposter invading a world I'd once inhabited.
Get back on the employment horse
Great article. I've been without work for, what seems like forever, 18 months. I've been desperately looking for work but alas nothing yet. I nervous about actually finding work since I've been out of the game for so long, will I easily get back on and make things happen the way it used to be when I was working?
Waiting for my "get out of jail free" card and getting back in the workforce.
Don't wait
Passive waiting won't do anything for you. Print your own "get out of jail free" card.
When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.
How Not to Lose Your Mind When You are Unemployed
Hi all!
I am new and have been unemployed now for over 9 mos. What a ride it has been! Anyway, I can very much relate to what everyone is saying on here and have written a brief listing that I hope will help you all as it has helped several of my unemployed friends when I have shared the same advice.
Please check it out and I hope it helps you even if in some small way!
J
http://www.squidoo.com/101-ways-to-not-lose-your-mind-when-unemployed
J_A