Unemployment Sucks!

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I don't care what anyone says, not having a job sucks.

Quite often the newly unemployed go through a period of relief upon first losing their jobs. You're going to collect unemployment for a while, catch up on sleep and family time, and -- hey -- you're good at what you do. You'll find a new job quickly, right?

Wrong. Chances are it will take you a long time to find a job. If you're over a certain age, you might just never work (at least in a traditional capacity) again. Hate to burst your bubble, but that's reality.

I hate to tell you this, too, if you're one of those doe-eyed newbies: The longer your remain unemployed, the worse it gets. Imagine every negative emotion you've ever felt stewing deep in your guts for months on end. That's basically what happens. You can do some things to quell it (exercise, meditation, prayer, staying busy) but it's going to happen.

We have so much personally invested in our work. It defines us. Losing a job is losing structure, losing financial stability, losing relationships, losing your self-confidence. Yeah, it sucks. There's no way around it.

You know what really pisses me off about unemployment? There is no need for it on a social level. So much work needs to be done. The problem is that all the money has flowed into very few hands. It's not circulating to working people. Unemployment has created a paradox in me personally: On one hand, it has forced me to be entrepreneurial. On the other hand, it has turned me into a bit of a communist. Who needs billions of dollars? Nobody! But everybody needs a job. In a world where so much needs to be done, how can so many be out of work?

Anyway, unemployment sucks. It sucks personally and it sucks socially. Please use this "Venting and Ranting" forum to get it out of you.

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Sucks bigtime

I absolutely agree with you Chuck! I'm 51 years old, just out of college and feel like it's useless for me looking for employment, although a part of me still remains hopeful because I refuse to sit on my butt and not try to do something...anything to get my face, my resume, my determination seen. So that's why I'm volunteering and praying this will be the stepping stone to success.

But here's what pisses me off the most. When employers list that they want an X amount of years of experience. I mean, come on here...you want job experience, but it takes a job to GET experience. I understand that there are many fields of work that take a college or trade education, that's why schools teach them. So doesn't our college diploma or degree carry enough weight to at least get hired in that field from the start? Seems not. Why? Are they too lazy to take new grads because it'll involve more time and training than the seasoned, experienced worker? What is it?

The last time I was unemployed was 30 years ago, but I had no college education and the unemployment rate was nowhere near what it is now. I couldn't complain then, what educational training and background did I have other than a H.S. diploma? None, okay, accepted. But now after a college education with specialty training with diploma and certification in hand, I feel more discouraged than all those years before. What the heck?!? It's caused me to lose faith in the whole entire system. And feeling this way is counter-productive when I know I have to be positive in order to sell myself any way I can to find a job. In other words, I feel like I have to put on a happy mask, but inside I'm angry and discouraged. It's a horrible feeling.

Now whenever I hear or read a post from a friend complaining about going to work, mildly or not, I always nicely remind them how fortunate they should be that they even have work; a J-O-B. Like you said Chuck, I'm just not getting this unemployment issue. I hear on the news all about the unemployment rate and yet I see thousands upon thousands of job listings on every search site there is out there which I'm part of. Granted, some are highly specialized fields, but many are not that specialized either. So bottom line: we have all these unemployed people looking for work and we have all these job positions waiting to be filled. What's the problem? What am I missing?

All I know is that I have the training, education and the drive, but yet they want a couple of years of experience first which is the wall I need to get over. But if this is the mentality of employers for any type of educational training position, well then somebody please tell me if they agree that it is this very mentality that helps lead to such an enormous unemployment rate. Talk about making a bad situation even worse. *Sigh*

Okay, that was my venting session. Thank you for listening.

Cheryl

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Not to blow your mind or anything

But there are hundreds of applicants for every one of those thousands upon thousands of positions you see open. "They" tell us that there are five officially unemployed people for every job opening. What they don't tell us is that, on top of that, there are a ton of discouraged workers who have given up the job search completely.

There are a whole ton of unemployed people out there. It's bad. It's a Greater Depression that's being swept under the rug.

As for experience, education and all that -- what I've always found is that if you show someone what you can do for them, you will always get the gig, whether you're applying for a job or trying to land a contract. When it comes down to it, nobody really cares about your education and experience. All that matters is the value you can add to their enterprise.

Volunteering... it seems like there's a conspiracy trying to drag me into it or something. Truth is, I'm fundamentally opposed to it, especially if you're using it as a stepping stone to success. Nobody should work for free. The CEOs of all those organizations that want you to volunteer are certainly not working for free.

Offering services out of the goodness of your heart is great. I do it all the time. "Volunteering" for some multi-million-dollar hospital or foundation just doesn't do it for me, at least not until I can reliably pay my own bills. Sorry if that sounds cold.

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I agree, but to a point

Chuck, I hear you and I do sincerely respect your facts and opinions. This is how we learn.

It seems that it does come down to that old adage, "it's not what you know, but who you know". I don't like that my volunteer work will be for free, but from the advice I'm getting from my net-workers, this is a good place to start, as it does allow one to get to know the right professionals that will help me get my foot in someone's door. Heck, if I have to play this "game" to get home plate, I'm gonna play it if it means helping me eventually land a job. What else can I do? I'm already unemployed with no paycheck, I might as well do volunteer work for free with the hopes it will help me proceed further in getting one. But as I had made comment in an earlier post on your blog, at this point of being "depressed and unemployed", I need to feel some good and rewarding feelings to off-set a lot of negative and depressive ones, and I feel it will fulfill that as well, so in the end, it serves two purposes. It's worth a try.

Peace and best wishes to all...

Cheryl

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That is a perspective I can appreciate

You've totally changed my opinion. As long as you're honest with yourself about using volunteer work as a stepping stone to your own success, more power to you. And if it makes you feel good to boot, hey, I'm all for it.

What sort of volunteer work are you doing?

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Sorry Chuck...

As much as you continue to say you are fundamentally opposed to volunteering I have bitten my tongue long enough and feel it's time for me to tell you what's on my mind. Keeping this website going for all of us out here that you don't know from a hole in the ground- is volunteering your time. Okay I said it. You are a volunteer. So slap me upside the back of my head.... You are like a marshmallow stuck inside a walnut shell.

Have a good night
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OK, OK, I give! Uncle!

Volunteering is good. In an ideal world, all work would be done on a volunteer basis.

I get it. I was foolish to even attempt to argue that volunteering was a bad thing. Sometimes I like to make ridiculous arguments just to see where they lead. I'm not sure if it's a good or bad personality trait.

Even so... in this age of so many not being able to pay their bills while so few control such mortifying wealth, I can't help but say that working for dollars takes precedence over the pleasant and noble thing that is volunteer work. Doesn't change the fact that volunteering is a good thing, but it does strike me as an elitist position; millions of unemployed people face eviction, foreclosure, hunger, lights turned off or any of a hundred other ugly realities. Volunteering at a homeless shelter doesn't make much sense when you're weeks away from being a resident of one.

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Volunteer

I'll be volunteering at a major hospital here as a "floor hostess". It involves running specimens to the lab, wheel-chairing patients out upon discharge, offering toiletries and reading materials to patients, offering refreshments to waiting families, and anything else that staff requires which a volunteer is able to assist with. I'm also awaiting being a surgery waiting area hostess; a sort of liaison between a patient in surgery and their waiting family members. Just from my 2nd orientation today, I cannot see anything but this being beneficial to me in more ways than one.

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So true

You are so right in your fundamental beliefs; I too wish it didn't have to be this way. This in itself makes it all so frustrating and sad. But we have no choice; we have to do whatever it takes. We can only hope that our through our charitable giving, some way, some how, it will come back us. Call me an idealist.

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I will call you an idealist...

... and I hope you'll take it as a compliment.

You totally rock!

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We all rock

Just reading everyone's posts here and so many other forums, it shows how many of us really take pride in our work ethics. In the end, we all have a common goal; to work. Yes, not just to earn a paycheck to make a living, but feel rewarded, appreciated and useful.

I've had a few criticisms about being an idealist, but whatever, it's who I am. So be it. So from you Chuck, I DO take it as a compliment :)

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Over a certain age

If people over a certain age might never work again, how are we supposed to pay for our rent, electric, food etc? I'm 56, single and live alone if I don't get a job I'll be homeless. So that's it I just get cut out of the work force and left out to be homeless because of my age. That is extremely depressing.

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Maybe I should revise that

Of course you'll work again, it just might not be in the capacity of a traditional employee.

There are lots of ways to rustle up a dollar or two in this world. Think about what can do for other people. Then think about how to let them know about you and your services. Then let them know.

Do it now!

Best of luck to you. If you need specific direction, you can post a little detail about you skills and experience and I (or someone else around here) might be able to offer some ideas.

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Take it from a Peace Corps

Take it from a Peace Corps volunteer, volunteering has it's uses. It's almost never a completely selfless act and that's ok. I joined the Peace Corps right out of college because I was terrified I wouldn't be able to find a job with an International Studies degree and no real experience in the field. Of course I had many other reasons such as an extreme desire to contribute to something bigger than my little world and experience another culture...so and so forth, but the point is, it's not just for "filling the void" or "keeping busy," in Cheryl's case it might lead directly to a job. Now, I returned from abroad at the end of November and I'm still not employed. I lost count long ago of how many resumes I've sent out to organizations in Washington DC. And eventually of course I started to get really discouraged and almost outraged, I mean I'm young, I have a degree and I was a Peace Corps volunteer trying to get into anything international affairs related. There's a lot out there to get into, especially in DC. However, for me, nothing was happening. It wasn't until April that I got a break, a guy that runs a small non-profit called me for an interview because he too was a Peace Corps volunteer. You just never know when you can put something on your resume that will spark someone's interest. Volunteering in any capacity is something that might set you apart at least a little, especially if the person reviewing your application had done it too or the company has a special affinity for it...it's a connection of sorts. I didn't get that job and I was crushed, but it got me an interview with him that over 300 other applicants didn't get. That's right over 300 people applied for this one job. That's what I have been up against. I knew vaguely that there is a lot of competition for every job opening but when he told me that number I figured it out, this is going to be much harder than I ever thought. That 5 number that "they" have told us is nonsense, if that's all it was I'd have a job. It's even worse for teachers. It's now July and I haven't got even a hint of interest from any other place I applied to there and that's a lot of places. Finally by the end of May I had moved on to the next step in the application process for a study abroad company here in Arizona. My Peace Corps experience has definitely set me apart from the pack. As of this past Friday I have interviewed with this company for a total of 3 hours and 15 minutes for 2 different positions with 8 different staff members including my potential supervisor who told me I was most interesting and a lot of people like me. And he also asked me which position I would prefer...hypothetically of course. I don't think I'm the top candidate for the 1st one I went for, but I was recommended for the 2nd by the interviewers, so I'm going to go out on a limb and say I'm at least pretty close. The waiting for a decision is painful, but I'm closer to a job than I have been in 7 months. I'm lucky that I didn't get the "so what have you been doing all this time?" question because the only answer I'd have is "job searching." I don't volunteer at the moment, I just don't want to and that's that. But I applaud you Cheryl, not just for committing your time for free, but also for the foresight to realize that doing it smartly could land you a job. If you want to work in a hospital than volunteering in one is smart. And I would just say to you as someone in their mid 20's that graduated with a Bachelor's 3 years ago, in my opinion it doesn't carry quite as much weight as it used to. Now everyone wants a Master's degree for jobs I can't believe require 2 more years of incredibly expensive education. I can't get over the b.s. that I see in some of these job descriptions for entry-level or associate positions...one of these days you're going to need a PhD in order to be a secretary. But, again, you went above and beyond and ended up with a degree, you'll get a job, it's only a matter of time, especially with your attitude. EEEK, sorry for rambling, I'm just as frustrated as you guys..exasperated is more like it.

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My mind has changed...

... about volunteering. There's nothing wrong with it in most cases.

I hope you get the job. It sounds like you're well in the running with all the interviews. Don't be too let down if it doesn't pan out, though. Sometimes when doors aren't opening it's because you're knocking on the wrong doors.

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Unemployment News - 11 States remain on Extended UE Benefits

Did you know there are 11 states that will remain on the extended benefits program now that federal funding has not yet been renewed. These 11 states boast permanent unemployment rate triggers that are not dependent upon federal funding to go into effect, and thus will continue to provide between 13 weeks and 20 weeks of additional unemployment benefits

Click the link below and see the map and find out if you are living in one of these states.

http://www.americanprogress.org/issues/2010/06/ui_extensions.html

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returned peace corps volunteer

I am a returned peace corps volunteer. the thing that really sucks is we are NOT eligible for unemployment. We are just completely screwed...i have worked for the last 10 years before peace corps and have payed into unemployment, but I'm watching my savings disappear. I left before the two years of service was up because the country i served in absolutely sucked and we only accrue $250.00 per month.

I regret my volunteer service completely and know that there are other volunteers that want to come home, but are too afraid they won't find a job. It makes me sick.

A lot of the jobs that you see posted are complete bs and the pay has gotten worse. The businesses know that people are desperate, so they offer insulting wages.....

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Hi Ana!

Ana, I am so sorry you are going through this experience. Volunteering is not easy especially in another country.

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Random Vent

Yes Chuck, you are correct, unemployment sucks really bad. Especially at a time when the economy sucks, housing is down, retail sales are down and layoffs are taking place all over the country.

Then, our wonderful government lies about the unemplotment rates and economic outlook. Every single industry has been affected over the last couple of years and more businesses are turning belly up than ever before in history.

I read another of your blogs where you stated it's just down right depressing and you are right about that too. I have been unemployed for a year and a half now. It is hard to get motivated to do anything. I have exhausted my savings and gone from over $1000 per week to $150 a week state unemployment. That in itself is depressing as your whole lifestyle changes. If not for my fiance, I would be homeless!

You can no longer contact the persons who do the hiring directly. The days of face to face meetings are over and everything has gone to an online application process where you are among the hundreds applying for the same job. You can get as creative as you want with your resume but it is just about impossible to stand out in the crowd anymore.

It's depressing and it sucks and I feel for anyone in the same predicament as myself. All I can do is keep plugging along, get up every day and check online for new openings and pray one day soon my time will come...

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Someone to rely on

Hello!

I am glad to see your fiance has stood by you. That is the test of life, the ones that are still there when you hit hard times :)

Some POSITIVE things are on their way - 2011 is right around the corner.

My Blog: A Story of Hope!
http://survivingunemployment.weebly.com

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Peace Corps and Unemployment

What is worse is that I don't regret my service. I was medically separated. I can't get unemployment and I only accrued a small amount which is now gone.

I could possibly get food stamps.
But wtf. If you leave for medical or evac reasons I feel like they should still send you your in-country living allowance for like 6 months. $250 a month helps especially with job hunting expenses.

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And on to Plan B

Well, I found out today that the position that I had recently interviewed for, and really was hoping to land, is a no-go for me. What's worse is that the position hasn't even been filled yet, but I was informed that they are looking for someone with more experience. As a person with five years of experience, I can tell that it wasn't a "we want someone with more experience" it was more like a polite "sorry but we don't like you". I think that's what hurt the most.
I am surprised at how I handled it though. I only cried for like 5 or 10 minutes, and now I'm back in the saddle again! Planning on getting certified as a CNA as there seems to be a good amount of positions in my local area. It's not what I really want to do, but if it means I can get my foot in the door somewhere, and if they offer tuition reimbursment, I can go back to school for nursing. That's hopefully the plan. We'll see what happens.

By the way, where is everyone? It doesn't seem like a lot of people are commenting like they used to. Don't tell me everyone else has found jobs already, and I'm the only one out there! :)

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Don't sweat it

Heidster, everything is exactly as it should be. How could it be otherwise?

You have the right attitude about your situation. CNA is a good field but I think the pay is pretty low. Have you considered a nursing program? In most states I think you can get certified as an RN in just two years. I could be wrong about that, but it seems I remember something about that.

As for comments, well, that's just the ebb and flow of traffic to the site. Sometimes there's a lot of traffic, sometimes not so much. This is a "not so much" time.

Rest assured that you're not the only one looking for work. I'm looking again too if it's any consolation.

When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.

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Your Site & Nursing

Hey Chuck:

Now that you will be unemployed again, could you look into why your site is being a royal "pain" to access. It takes a lot of PATIENCE & TIME (lol).

Alot of states do give FREE money to folks who want to be trained in the medical field.

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Unemployment Really Sucks Bad

I have been on and off the phone for over 2 months trying to get unemployment. They keep telling me I don't qualify.
This inaccurate. I do qualify.I been told my wages are not in the guidelines. What A Bunch Of Crap. It positively does.
Unemployment is for the birds. Oh yes try getting food stamps that sucks as well. We need change in the country and fast.
Fire all of the workers in Unemployment. We all should have their jobs. They ignore you don't call you back or loss paperwork all the time. It is really ashame what is going on with the American Worker. You can't even make ends meat anymore. Me and my wife are know selling our stuff on ebay to get by now. We have nothing. It is real shame this unemployment workers don't see really waht is going on behind locked doors or to the clients they say they help.
Are any of you going through this crap?

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Yes, Yes and Yes

How I mirror your sentiments. I was recently fired by a new supervisor who is both corrupt as well as a racist bigot. He was reported to HR for these behaviors and I suspect he thought it was me, as I am strightforward and outspoken. At any rate, I was in the crosshairs from that point forward. In a state with "at will" employment, the worker has limited protection unless one opts to pursue a lawsuit. That asshole ended 9 years of committed service for me as of November 2010. I volunteer as well-- it is rewarding, but don't set your hopes too high-- funding is tight these days. In addition, I am thinking quite seriously of graduate school now (after two degrees, mnd you)just to keep engaged-- and expensive pursuit, as you are well aware. If I had an opportunity, I would consider you, particularly since you are in the group of persons probably well experienced with life and demonstrate (through your recent stint at the university) a willingness to strive. DO NOT GIVE UP! Yes it sucks, but you may be pleasantly surprised someday when you encounter the right opportunity. OK, so that is a line of crap, but it still can happen. It better for me! Best of luck to you, my dear.

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Grrrrrr!

Company I interviewed with last year suddenly rings up and says they'd really like to interview me again because I was a close second last time and they have another position!

With excitement growing at the thought of being head-hunted and therefore having a very good chance of landing the job, I ask them to send me a job description...

They send me a job description, apologising for the lateness because they hadn't written it yet (?!). Oh and by the way, can I travel the 200 miles to their head office for the interview rather than down the road like last time?...

Advert for job appears on-line. So much for being the chosen one...

Get to the interview, only for them to say that the position doesn't actully exist. They are currently gathering suitable candidates to present a case to get the company to create this position, which may not go ahead anyway. WTF!? When will I find out if a) I am successful and b) the job will exist?...Dunno, probably in about 3 or 4 months!!!

And by the way, I know we said we would cover your travel expenses but you stayed overnight somewhere and I don't think we can fund that...

And you've been working in a totally different field for a year since we last met! (shock bloody horror! Looks at me like I'm clearly undedicated to the field)...at this point I want to grab him by the collar and scream "yeah, because incase you haven't realised the economy is poo, I was unemployed then, I took what I could get and IF YOU HAD HIRED ME THEN, THEN I'D BE IN THE SAME FIELD!

Aaaaaaaaargh!!!!! What a waste of my time!

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Grrrrrr!

Midlifecrisis: I've heard so many stories like that, I could swear people are doing it on purpose.

I've been in interviews where they keep saying, "we've narrowed it down to you and one other person. Tomorrow we'll make a decision, which lucky person is going to get the job." Then you find out soon after that they've decided to view more applicants.

Don't they realize that all interviewers say that and we've heard it all a thousand times before?

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Hallelujah, I'm not alone

I've been unemployed for a couple of months and battling unemployment. It's reassuring to hear I'm not a targeted victim but yet a victim of our country. All of the delays are less than encouraging but yet it gives me plenty of time to plot my revenge on the people responsible for my being unemployed. :-) There, something bright to think about.

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ARGH!!!

I'm from Alaska, where there is more good paying work than you can shake a stick at. If only I had known...

I have 13 years experience in my field and am only 35. I've never had a hard time landing a job. I've been unemployed for 5 months now. I tested for a local government job (worked for the government before I left AK) a few months ago. I ranked #4, which guarantees me an interview. I "cheerfully" checked in every other week to find out when interviews would be conducted. Kept being told they would call me as soon as they were ready to interview. I wrote again the other day, and the lady writes back to say they have started interviewing in the town next to mine, but since I didn't select that town on my app, they didn't call me. OK, no worries, because I didn't want to work in that town. They told me my town would definitely call me when they were ready to interview. So, I patiently waited and then wrote to the person in my town to check in. I get a call from personnel today telling me that the only way I could get a job in my town was to select the other town on my application, because all the training for that job takes place in the other town. So, the interviews are done and they have hired everyone they needed. How was I supposed to know the training took place in the other town??? Why didn't they somehow make this clear??? I would have no problem training in that town!!!! ARGHHHHHHHHH!!!!! WTF?????

I am probably blacklisted now because I politely pointed out how f'd up that is. In all our communication, they never, ever, in any way, pointed this out. I swear it felt like a big f-you joke!!!!! Didn't know I needed to be psychic to get the job!

Thanks for letting me vent. I just don't get it.

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Don't sweat it

You're probably not on any sort of blacklist. The people you dealt with have better things to do than keep blacklists, and they probably understand how frustrated you are; they are human, after all.

The good news is that you scored well on the test. If you want to work in a bureaucracy that sounds disorganized, take another test. Just keep trying. If that's what you want, it will happen for you.

Is that really what you want, though? Think about it. This is not meant as criticism, but I have to say that it sounds like government work might not suit you, like you're a bit too passionate for it. Sometimes when doors aren't opening it's because you're not knocking on the right doors.

Whatever you do, just keep going forward. Don't let this experience make you bitter. Water off a duck's back... water off a duck's back... Best of luck to you!

When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.

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Thanks, Chuck. I'm not bitter

Thanks, Chuck. I'm not bitter about it, just wanted to vent because it seemed absurd to me. I'd been waiting on pins and needles for the call to interview for several months. Oh well. And you're right, it made me strongly reconsider if I want to work for a department that seems very disorganized. This comes on the tail of another confusing and absurd situation, and it feels like I'm caught in a crap storm at the moment.

I maintain the belief that everything happens for a reason, and I do know the crap storm will blow over eventually.

Thank you for providing this forum for folks to purge. It does help.

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wtf

i have a misdemeanor conviction on my record, i had two beers and then was going to my friend's house. officer pulled me over for passing a slow moving vehicle. i was 20 at the time and the officer gave me a breathalyzer, i blew a .02 i went to jail for a dui and spent over 5000 dollars for court costs and to remove it from my record, community service, fines, you name it. had i been 21, my bac would not have mattered but in oklahoma you cant even use mouthwash and drive shortly after, any measurable content of alcohol is a dui!!!!!! i dont condone drinking and driving, but a bac of .02 does not warrant a dui and ruining someone's life. it is expunged from my record, but every place i apply uses some fucked up reporting/background check agency that gets their information off of remaining internet records, but if you go to the courthouse to find a record on me you will not find one. i was about to get a very good stable job, when the background agency tells me the company will not hire me bc of this dui, i contest this and tell them how they incorrectly gathered info, and they said they are willing to further investigate it, with the help of my lawyer. well thats all peachy, but my job is already long gone you miserable fucktards.... what do they care if their info is correct, as long as they get paid. i am a clean and sober person, honest, hard-working, with above average intelligence, and i just want to work hard, and no one will give me a chance. you dont know how much it hurts to aplly at places, not get the job and when you return they have hired some pot smoking fried out retard with no ambition and no self respect and especially no clue of how to take pride in one's work, it fucking sickens me and i seriously contemplate suicide more and more because i vant provide for myself or my gf and everyone basically tells me thaat i'm worthless. if u keep getting told something, no matter how much u believe otherwise, u eventually start to believe it

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In this case...

... honesty is the best policy. On the "Have you ever been arrested?" question, just tick off the "yes" box and offer a short explanation. Be sure to mention that the conviction has been expunged because of your successful completion of the sentence (community service and all that jazz).

People have come back from pasts checkered by far worse than expunged DUI convictions. Don't give up!

By the way: If your girlfriend tells you you're worthless, get rid of her. You're better off alone. That kind of BS becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

I hear a lot of negativity from you, and I fully "get" where it's coming from. Take it from one who's been there: You need to throw it out like the garbage that it is. Put in a new playlist, one that says, "I'm good enough and getting better all the time. Everything will be OK for me."

Best of luck.

When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.

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wtf y was my comment not

wtf y was my comment not posted?

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Spam control

Relax, man. I personally approve every anonymous comment because I hate spam. Sometimes it takes a few days.

If you join the site, you can post without approval (though I still reserve the right to delete your comments and ban you if you abuse the privilege).

When life hands you sh*t, make fertilizer.

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UNFREAKIN BELEIVABLE

10 WEEKS NO CHECK, CAN'T GET THRU, WIFE READY TO LEAVE ME!!!AFTER PAYIN FOR 40+ YEARS TO THE MAN, HE TURNS HIS CHEEK WHEN YOU NEED ASSISTANCE AND GIVES BILLIONS AND BILLIONS TO COUNTRIES IN NEED!!HELP IS AT HOME U.S.A FIRST YOU DICK WEED!!

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He gives them bombs

He gives hundreds of billions to them in the form of bombs that rain down on their villages. I got no problem feeding hungry kids whether they're here or in some other country.

But when it comes to handing the Man trillions of dollars for fancy bombs, well, that rankles me.

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Take care of home first

I do have a problem with the US feeding kids in another country! Why? There are so many living on the streets starving here where I live. Sorry, but take care of these kids in the US and then if you have extra - send it overseas!!!!

Angela J. Shirley,How I Keep Income In My Life!

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It's not either/or

That's a false dichotomy.

For the cost of one bomb, you could feed a thousand kids for a year. If we stopped dropping so many bombs on other countries, we could well afford to feed more kids here, there and everywhere. If we did that, maybe we wouldn't need to be so paranoid about people wanting to terrorize us. Just a thought...

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Bombs

LOL Chuck, I agree!!!!

I have stopped watching the news as I am so over seeing all those lives going to waste. It is just not folks in the military - it is also innocent adults and kids.

It is time to start minding our own business and fighting our own wars.

I guess that is why I don't vote - don't like any of the choices. It is like they won't go overseas to fight - but have no problem sending others.

In ending, they need to downsize the White House and Air Force One and whatever else the existing president has. Sorry, but why should the rest of us downsize or be on the streets while they are living large.

How about putting some unemployed folks in the White House and any other mansions they own.

Angela J. Shirley,How I Keep Income In My Life!

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TIRED OF HEARING UNEMPLOYMENT IS DOWN!!

I was layed off in March of this year, 2012.Out of the blue, in the middle of the day and they waited until after my lunch. WHY? I should of known something was up when my friends didn't talk to me that day, nor eat lunch with me.After 24 years of hard diligent, reliabile service I was thrown to the wolves. When I gave extra time every day, plus went out of my way to assist others and do odd jobs around the office own my own. Why, because I had a job and cared, about the front office and its appearance. While the general manager kept buying other companies and adding work to a few of us. I was still let go. We had 4 companies under one roof. Each company was run seperately for better tax benefits. So at month end each company had to be closed down. my job I handled the front desk, reception, all incoming and out going mail. I took care of the upkeep on the mail machine and kept the paper filled in the faxes,and copiers. I was customer service for 3 of the companies, took orders and keyed in to our computer system, billed and invoiced, handled credits, while also doing accounts payable for 3 of the companies, matching, coding and entering and setting up and doing weekly check runs.Also answered the main phone line, helped A/R and worked in the warehouse when needed. We didn't get breaks, only those that smoked were allowed breaks in the office. Yet somehow I was the one chosen to be let go while other people that only did one job for one company stayed. They called in sick all the time. I DON"T UNDERSTAND!!! By the time I pay Cobra and rent and my $200.00 car payment I only have $100.00 of unemployment left. How do I pay bills on that, buy groceries and personal supplies and medication? I don't know where these people get their satistics that unemployment is down. It pisses me off. I lost a $16.00 an hr full time job, with 401K, 4 weeks paid vacation and 10 paid holidays. My medical Ins cost me more now than when I was employed. It only last 18 months. What really upsets me is the fact the General Manager hired his two sons in their twenties and their salary is way higher than anyone in the office and they have to be completely trained and the one is dumping alot of the work on to the HR person which isn't the work she should be doing. I can't tell anyone enough that I am hurt,pissed off, mad as hell, disgusted and have a war raging inside of me.Then the nerve of those involved wanting to be my friend on facebook. What the .....!I am 52 with on the job training. I have been searching and sending resumes with not one interview. I have even restructered my resume. Then the government wants to make it look like you are lazy and not really trying. I want to slap the people that work for DES upside the head. You only get 20 weeks of unemployment. What do you do when that runs out. I am single so I don't qualify for food stamps or anything. I am a hard worker , willing to learn, but OMG if you say you don't want to go to school. I do not want a $4000 loan hanging over my head. Those who have degrees can't even get employment. I don't mind on the job training or seminars. I give my best at work, but I am not marrying my job. That is not fair to expect that from workers. I refuse to start back over at $8.00 an hour after 24 years. I want to beat down walls and break apart something I am so mad. The good employees are crapped on, while other employees are kept. I guess because I didn't flirt and talk vulgar and dirty, I wasn't good enough to keep or talk loud where everyone in the office could hear. I have so much turmoil since I was let go that I can't sleep at night. I will never get over this nor forget or forgive who did it to me. Especially when they tell you they have more money than they know what to do with in their personal bank account. TOTAL RAGE!!!!

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